FORGIVENESS
“It’s OK. I know your intentions were good. – I forgive you.”
“It’s OK. I know you regret it. – I forgive you.”
“It’s OK. Don’t be so hard on yourself. – I forgive you.”
“It’s OK. It know it was only a one-time-thing. – I forgive you.”
To forgive something. Like truly and honest. In a healthy way. To really forgive someone (free from your ego), is – in my opinion – the opposite of easy.
And still we do it. Or at least we try to do it. So the others don’t have to feel bad anymore. To release them. From their heavy feelings of guilt. With the intention to let them release their bad feelings.
The thing is, that I don’t believe, forgiveness can ever be for somebody else. It might help them and support them by their own process. But to forgive is something, we have to do for ourselves.
To forgive someone else, is – in the end – to allow yourself to let something go. To create space for yourself to heal. To not carry anger, sadness, emotional injuries with you. It’s about to step out of the position of a victim and to take responsibility for your own actions instead.
“I forgive you.” can only truly work, if you are aware of why you put yourself in this position. Because it needs someone else as much as it needs you to get hurt.
“I forgive you.” can only help to heal yourself, if you are aware of that part, you played in this interaction. If you really faced before, why you allowed yourself to get hurt.
And most important “I forgive you” only works with “I forgive myself” first.
Let’s be even more radical. Let’s say: To truly forgive someone else is in the end an egoistic action. Because even if you think you help someone else this ways, it’s all about you.
You feel better afterwards.
You decide to take responsibility for yourself.
You step into the process of heal and growth.
It’s coming from egoism. But a healthy, self-beloved, nobody-get-hurt egoism.
And so does the other person. Your forgiveness won’t be enough to cover their feelings, if they don’t face themselves and start to forgive themselves. As long as forgiveness comes from someone else and not from your inside, there ll be always a part, that judges you… yourself.
I absolutely don’t say that’s easy. It’s actually so much harder to forgive yourself then someone else. Because we’re mostly so hard on ourselves. So much harder than to others.
So when you feel lost. When you feel like: “I just can’t forgive myself. But I really want to.” Think about, why you forgave the other person. If this person deserves your forgiveness, you do that too. So tell yourself:
“It’s OK. I know I regret it. – I forgive myself.”
“It’s OK. I don’t have to be so hard on myself. – I forgive myself.”
“It’s OK. This was an important lesson. – I forgive myself.”
“It’s OK. I needed this experience to feel my value. – I forgive myself.”
And best case:
“It’s OK. This was a tough experience but there is always a reason for everything. And I learnt this lesson now. Thank you to myself, that I allow myself to be vulnerable. That I allow myself to face my shadows honestly. That I take responsibility for my own actions.
Thank you, that I created this situation where I could experience how to forgive myself. And how to love myself in my imperfection.”
In the end, maybe you’ll be even able to transform this forgiveness into thankfulness.
Thankfulness for allowing yourself to get hurt. Because maybe it was necessary to experience selflove. Maybe it was needed to feel your own power of self healing. Maybe it was the only way how you had to turn your focus inwards and to see your value again.
Forgiveness is a tool.
A wonderful, powerful, necessary tool.
And it’s never too late to start to practice it.
Learn your lesson. So you know, how you can do it better the next time. For them. But primarily for yourself.
WHAT IF...
What if it’s just OK. Exactly how it supposed to be.
What if you are here because you have to.
If everything of your past just exactly had to happen as it did. So you could end up here.
In this moment. With those feelings. With this challenge.
Today. Here. Now.
What if there is nothing to blame for. Nothing that works against you.
If it’s even the opposite:
Everything had to work out this way to offer you this moment. Towards this experience.
What if this darkness isn’t something to escape from.
If it’s here for you. Nothing to fight.
What if its made out of pure love and wants you to show how it feels like when you find back to the light.
What if that is its mission.
Because without it - without fear, anger, pain, disappointment,... - how would you even recognize
the good.
Doesn't it need emptiness to feel fulfillment?
I just refuse to believe that there is something out there in the universe that works against us.
Yes, maybe we lose our way sometimes.
Maybe sometimes we feel like victims.
Without faith.
But also then: This is something good. It’s a chance. An opportunity.
To experience forgiveness.
Patience.
To process.
To face those things, that hurt you.
And to heal.
To grow.
So I believe you are exactly where you supposed to be. And it’s your decision to change something if you don't like the place where you are. You decide to recognize the opportunities. Those chances life offers you to get back on track. It’s your decision to learn the lesson. You decided to end up here. And you can decide which path you choose next.
It’s all in you.
And you are everything in one.
You are faith.
You are love.
You are light.
You are forgiveness.
So who do you choose to be today?
SHAME
“Stop acting so weird.”
“You can’t say that in public.”
“Are you sure you wanna wear this?”
We all know those phrases. We heard them since we were young. We internalized them. Believed them. Till they became our inner voice. Our reality. Our truth.
But are you actually aware of where they are coming from? Of their origin? Because they all have the same. They are all created by Shame.
On the list of emotions, shame is the one with the lowest vibration. The frequency of this feeling is the most downgrade compared to all the others. And we can feel that. Because nobody likes to feel ashamed. To judge ourselves for who we are. What we think. What we do.
It’s so low that instead of facing us and our actions. Instead of questioning, why we feel this way. Where this emotions comes from. – Instead of all this; we try to avoid it.
Most likely you already had at least one situation in your life, you felt really ashamed for yourself. A situation, even if you think back to it right now, you still have to grimace and probably you try to avoid to feel it again. This is shame. Uncomfortable. Disgusting. Painful. Hard to forget. Not to mention to ignore.
But I think it wasn’t always like this. We weren’t always like this. Is shame really an emotion? A natural feeling of human beings. Or isn’t it actually acquired? An artificial created program fabricated by society? To make others feel better – in a really horrible way?
When a baby comes to this world it feels love, fear, happiness, anger. But shame? Shame is relative and depends of an interaction. We can only feel ashamed because of someone else’s judgment. So how can’t this be artificial?
From a young age, we learn “It’s not appropriate to do this.” “You can’t say that in public.” Don’t get me wrong. I agree that as soon as people – like a society – live together, it needs some rules to makes everybody feel comfortable. To create a safe environment.
I’m not talking about ‘waiting in a line till you get your coffee’ or ‘don’t cough into someone’s face’. I mean specifically those rules that are emotionally connected. The ones we follow because we would feel ashamed if we won’t.
Those unwritten rules learn us step by step, what’s accepted by otheres and what’s not. What should make us feel bad for ourselves.
We learn that.
And we internalize that.
Till we think it’s an natural emotion.
But I think it’s not.
Actually it’s even worse: Shame is a luxury good of the modern world. Something you have to be rich enough to create. Something you need enough money and time to afford. In a system, where a few have more than others. Or do you believe in a utopic world where everybody wouldn’t have a table, it would be a shame to sit on the floor to eat?
The materialistic abundance of society that is able to buy 20 pair of designer jeans is responsible for the shame you feel, when you wear the same cheap pair every single day. And you are responsible for giving them this power over you. Like I said; Shame can only exist because you can put yourself or your situation in relation to someone else’s.
It’s a product of those who fight against individuality. Against differences. Diversity. The ones that probably are afraid of losing their spotlight if suddenly being special would be the goal. Instead of following the mainstream. The ones that love to compare but are afraid of being different. Shame is a program. An artificial created way of feeling wrong or not good – normal – enough.
This program has a big background story and is as old as human history. It’s an awful instrument. And sadly efficient. As long as the repressed ones allow the others to make them feel ashamed.
And this is the key! You don’t feel naturally ashamed – you ‘allow’ them, to create shame inside you.
If shame is a program it can be rewritten. It’s your decision to face everything that makes you feel ashamed. To figure out, were this judgmental mindset is coming from. And it’s your decision to not feel ashamed anymore.
If you feel comfortable with yourself. The way you look. You are. Your individual details. Those that actually make you to who you really are. If you fall in love with yourself. Shame has to leave. Because nobody can give you this feeling of being ashamed, if you’re not allowing them.
So get your control back. Your independency. Don’t let them judge you. And – obviously – don’t judge them. Creating the feeling of being ashamed inside of someone else is even more disgusting then feeling ashamed itself. So don’t be that person.
In fact; flip the whole thing over and show the world how life is without shame. Let’s try to rewrite the list of emotions. Let’s eliminate shame and replace it with responsibility. Take responsibility for your actions. For your life. For yourself.
We deserve that.
You deserve that.
FLOW
Everything flows. Is in motion. Constantly.
Behind every wave is already a new one waiting. One is breaking. Piles up again. Breaks again. And then spills over the sand. Shortly the water touches the beach. Before it already got soaked back and immediately gets part of the next wave.
Everything flows. And everything is one. Life. Water. The ocean.
Impressive. Huge. Strong. Loud. Sometimes calm. Sometimes wild. Sometimes clear. Sometimes turbid.
Everything is energy. Every wave just exists because somewhere far out there, this huge amount of energy got released. Energy that moves towards the land. And starts to bundle. To create something bigger. Stronger. One movement. One wave.
“Surfing is a metaphor for life” – they say. And I think, they’re right.
We are sitting out there. Waiting. Waiting for a movement to show up at the horizon. A chance to take out the maximum of something that moves towards us. That’s what we want. All of us. The maximum.
And then we start to prepare us. First we don’t know exactly what for. Just that it comes. Because it always came. It was always like that. We lay and wait. We look back over our shoulder and check. Keep an eye on the energy.
It gets closer. Sometimes we replace us, in case we’re not at the ideal spot yet. And then we start to paddle. Sometimes too early. Sometimes too late. More too early or late than at the perfect moment. But if it’s not working out, we just try it with the next one. Because there’s always a next one. We know about the infinity of opportunities which constantly come towards us.
On a certain moment, it works out. The feeling of the wave – the energy – connects with the board. It's the moment we decide. To make something artificial out of something natural. To create something even more powerful out of something given.
We decide for a direction. To go high or low. To turn. And come back to the source. We play with the energy. Till it runs out. Or we lose it. Or we jump. Or it just passes us. Sometimes we decide to finish. Sometimes the ocean does. More often the ocean then we.
Everything flows. Is in motion. Constantly. Life. It offers us and infinity of opportunities. Bigger and smaller ones. But it’s our responsibility to see them. To be conscious. To take them. To enjoy. To play with them.
Sometimes we are not prepared. It’s too much energy. And we fall. Get twirled. Ducked.
Panic. Stress. Go up. Breath. Back on the board.
Try to keep track of the water.
Breath.
And then paddle back.
Every drop. Every duck. Every wrong movement is a lesson. An opportunity to learn. To listen better to our inner and the ocean. To get better in reading the signs.
“Surfing is a metaphor for life” – they say. And I think, they’re right.
It is the interaction of nature, energy, movement and us. Our physical body and our mind. A natural way of consciousness. An interplay between putting effort in something and also just enjoying and letting us carry. To feel the support of the water. Of life. The never ending flow of opportunities towards us. And our decision to choose wisely, which ones we like to take and which ones we let pass under us. Maybe because they’re not what we need right now. Or they seem to big yet. Or we just missed them.
Everything flows. And everything is one. The ocean. Water. Life.
That’s how it always was. How it always will be.
It is exactly how it supposed to be.
RESPECT
Respect is either
"esteem based on recognition and admiration"
or
"a sensation toward someone else based on its superordinate position, that makes you try to avoid to thrill discontent".
That’s what google says.
When I read that I was kind of shocked.
Living in a country, where respect is an almost daily used term and a cause for a lot of conflicts made me think about this concept. And I came to the point when I realized, that I’m actually not having a proper definition. Neither an explanation how it influences my interactions. That’s why I started a research.
But both of those definitions didn’t satisfy me. Both of them have their source from the outside. And that’s the opposite of what I’m believing in.
For me every creature deserves to get respected. I’m talking about respecting the personality, personal space, opinions,… It’s about treating someone the way you would like to get treated by others. Friendly. Thoughtful. Beloved. Free of judgment.
It’s the way, you should treat yourself. So it all starts from your inner. Based on love.
Ask yourself first. Do I respect myself? Do I face myself in a thoughtful, beloved, patient and regardful way? Do I set my boundaries and protect myself?
And then be aware of your environment. Because it's only a reflection of your inner. How can others treat you with respect, if you’re not doing it? Or from another point of view; When they don’t respect you, could it be, because you’re missing your own respect for yourself?
To look for respect in the external might work. For a while. But not forever.
We all deserve to get respected. To be seen and loved for who we really are. Obviously you can feel some special kind of respect for a special performance. But there should be a base of respect for everybody. It’s like a right you receive when you get born. And it’s not negotiable. Never.
And moreover there's a big difference between respect and to be afraid of someone. That’s fear. And fear has absolutely nothing to do with having the innate right of being seen and loved for who you are. I believe, that people who mistake fear with respect probably don’t really respect themselves. Yet. Maybe they never learned it. Maybe never someone showed them how it could and should look like.
So show them respect. But not because they frighten you. But to treat them the way you would like get treated by them. Respectful.
Do it for you.
Respect yourself.
Set your bondaries.
Create your own space.
Free of judgment. Full of love.
For who you are.
Who you have been.
And who you're going to be.
And then share your respect.
Do it for you.
Because you love yourself.
And because you deserve it.
Always.
BRAVE
This word accompanied me quiet a lot the past couple weeks. It’s a word we use often. In a positive way. A word we use to give a compliment. To express that we are impressed. But what is ‘brave’ exactly? What’s my definition of ‘brave’? When do I feel brave and how do I feel, when someone calls me brave?
In general I think to be brave is something positive. And it’s something the most of us like to be called. Because it describes how strong we are. And who doesn’t like to be called strong?
I also realized its subjectivity. It describes an action you do by overcoming your fear. It’s about to face your own anxiety. To leave your comfort zone. To decide by purpose for your growth instead of stop. – So obviously to feel brave depends on who you are and your individual fears. Means; What I call brave, doesn’t have to seem brave to someone else.
When we call someone brave we normally assume that compared by our own comfort zone. So if somebody can’t take that as a compliment and responds instead: “Oh that didn’t feel brave at all.” Maybe that’s because this person really didn’t feel any fear while doing it. This little insight will help me and maybe you to be a little more empathic – in this specific context. And furthermore it maybe helps you to see yourself in a more beloved way. Only because nobody realizes that you left your comfort zone doesn’t mean you weren’t brave. Instead of compare yourself with others, try to give yourself a compliment. Because only you really know how much it costs you to overcome your fears. And that nobody said anything doesn’t change this fact. They just have their own fears and comfort zones.
Furthermore I started to distinguish between ‘being brave’ and ‘to calculate something wrong’. For example; I think it’s not brave to cross a street without watching if something is coming. That’s just a wrong calculation of the risk to get knocked over by a car.
So think about your comfort zone. Your fears. First of all internalize that they have absolutely their right to exist. Some of them are here to protect you and keeping you alive. Some of them are here to let you grow. And then, in a second step, be conscious when you cross the line. Your limit. When you overcome your fear. And celebrate that. Because you just expanded your comfort zone. That’s amazing…
And last but not least ask yourself first; Would that really be brave or just wrong calculated? What am I really doing that for? Only do it, if your answer is ‘because I love myself and I wanna grow’. Everything else doesn’t matter and would be the wrong reason. You don’t owe anybody else anything. Only yourself. You owe yourself to love yourself. And that’s the most amazing thing ever. And actually – in my opinion – that's pretty brave…
THOUGHTS
What if all of our problems are just artificial creations we coined by ourselves? And consequently what if we have the power over their existence? What if they’re just products of using our thoughts in the ‘wrong’ way? What if we could just eliminate our problems? By decide that their not worth it. Not worth our energy. Not worth our time. Wouldn’t that be releasing? And healing?
We think a lot. All the time. Twenty-four-seven. Some of us tend to overthink situations. Some of us make their decisions faster. But in the end we’re all thinkers. That’s something that distinguish us from animals… right? However in the beginning of the human existence, when the difference between us and animals wasn’t that huge, we used our thoughts different. The main function was to survive. To avoid danger. To avoid everything that we feared. Because that’s what surviving was about. Meanwhile the world changed. A lot. But did the subject of our mind and thoughts too? Isn’t it in the end still about evade everything that frightens us?
We’re afraid to not fall in love.
So we watch out actively for this one person.
Instead of trusting life and letting love happen. By itself.
How it supposed to be.
Naturally.
We’re afraid to have no money.
So we apply for any job.
Instead of working on our skills and trusting life and letting the right job come towards us.
How it supposed to be.
Naturally.
We’re afraid to not fit in.
So we create a fitting-in-personality.
Instead of falling in love with who we really are and trusting life, that it will bring the right people towards us – those who appreciate who we are.
How it supposed to be.
Naturally.
We’re afraid of such a lot of things, we don’t have to. So instead of being afraid and creating problems out of those fears. You can choose trust. Trust in life. In you. In love. Trust into your way. And that everything will happen anyways how it supposed to. You just don’t know when it’s gonna happen. But life knows. And its timing is always on point. That’s why you have to trust. That’s the only thing you have to. And that’s so much healthier than being afraid. And creating problems. And trying to solve those. Even if behind them already new ones are waiting. Because you created them. Artificially.
Choose trust instead of fear. And use your thoughts consciously. To think about you. Who you are. What you want. How you can face yourself in a beloved way. Every single day. Work on yourself. And trust life. Let life happen. And don’t create problems, where no problems should be created. That just makes no sense...
The world changed. We changed. We don’t have to survive every single day like we used to have earlier. So invest your thoughts wisely. And healthy. In a beloved way. You deserve that!
RELATIONSHIPS
To be alone and to feel alone is barely not the same. The first thing is a choice you make. By yourself. To consciously spend time alone. Physically. To feel alone is in contrast something mentally. You can feel alone and be surrounded by people at the same time. It’s a feeling. To not feel connected. With nobody. To not feel understood. By nobody.
Most of us try to avoid this feeling. Instead we try to make friends and have relationships. But a real relationship is nothing you can get by flip with your fingers. To really feel connected with someone else, this other person has to comply some conditions. So what are yours?
I have four – let’s call them – ‘main-conditions’. First of all I need the other person to be truthful. Someone who isn’t afraid to confront itself with the truth and to be honest with me. Second I need a clear, transparent communication. How should any relationship work out, if we don’t communicate? Use your voice and your body and tell me your thoughts, feelings and opinions. The third thing I value a lot is ‘reflection’. I’m a person who likes to think and consider about my actions and my attitude to things. I wanna grow. Every single day. And that includes to review my past and actual me and to be open to change. My last condition is ‘to feel’. Our spectrum of feelings is huge. And all of them have their qualifications to get felt. Don’t close yourself and over all, don’t judge them. Instead; fall in love with your feelings. With all of them. Because they tell and teach you a lot about yourself. To connect, means to me that I have to see the others. Every single side of them. Who they really are. And that’s only possible if they don’t hide themselves.
I don’t need an “always happy” – friend. I need someone who is sad sometimes. Or angry. Disappointed. Hurt. Excited. Confused… I need to know what the others like and dislike and how they feel. Then I can really connect. So don’t be afraid to show your feelings. You shouldn’t judge them - and neither should others. No one is allowed to do that!
For me any relationship – and more over the one I have with myself – is about growth. So let’s grow together. And in case you need to hear that; You are never alone. Your best friend is you. Always. Fall in love with spending time with you. Connect with yourself in a truthful, communicative, reflected way and allow all your feelings to be felt. I promise you; as soon as you do that, you will attract the right people anyways.
YOUR DECISION
All of us have experienced low energy feelings (I’m not gonna call them ‘bad’ feelings, because feelings shouldn’t be categorized as good or bad). And we all have been at lonely places. We all know this feeling of being lost. Without light. Surrounded by complete darkness. Chaos. And maybe you’ve questioned life then. Maybe you’ve asked yourself then, why do those things just happen to me? What did I do wrong? How do I deserve that?
But what if I tell you, that they’re meant to happen to you. What if I tell you, that life loves you so much and that’s the reason for all those experiences. They offer you to find yourself again. To give you the opportunity to experience your healing power. Again. And again. Because you absolutely have it. It’s all about to find back to your light. To your inner love.
The truth is, those things will always happen to you. That’s life. You have no influence to that. But you have the influence to decide, what you’re going to do with it. You can decide to take obstacles as offers. Offers to experience feelings. Offers to find back to yourself. Offers to grow. Offers to forgive. Offers to love.
And moreover you have to know, that every single time you find back to your light, it will grow bigger and bigger. So instead of judging low energy experiences, try to fall in love with them. Try to be grateful for them. Because they’ll help you to grow your self-love and your light. They’re important.
So it’s up to you. What do you wanna do, when you feel pain? When you get hurt? When others treat you bad? It’s absolutely your decision. You can choose to take all of those as a chance. A chance to forgive. A chance to let it go. As a chance to find yourself again.
And then – on one point – you will fall in love with this process. I promise you. Because you’re gonna realize your power. That you can choose life. Always. You can always choose yourself. You can always choose love. And that’s all what life is about.
TAKE YOUR TIME TO CONNECT
Recently I felt lost. Out of nowhere. It hit me like a hurricane. “What are you actually doing here?” “What do you want in life?” “Where do you go?” All those fundamental questions were running through my mind. And I had no answer for them. I felt stressed. Really stressed. And I also knew that I won’t find immediately an answer.
So I gave myself the only thing I could: Time. A gift I should give myself more often. I gave myself time to breathe. To process. To think. To distract. Just time. Time to reconnect myself with my heart. Time - without any pressure. And then - when I felt ready, reconnected between mind and soul - I asked myself again. But in a more beloved way. “How are you?” “Why do you feel like this?” And “What do you need at the moment?” I wrote all my thoughts and feelings down. Without any assessment. And without the expectation of coming to a solution.
And that’s how it is. I still have no answers to those aggressive questions… But I know now, where they are coming from. And that feels like so much more important to me.
And moreover I worked on my power of connection. With my heart. My gut-feeling. My inner child.
So this lesson feels more than just figuring out a plan. Maybe it’s not about that at all. Maybe it’s a lesson about mindfulness. An occasion that gave me the opportunity to experience my power of connection. That showed me how important it is to give myself time. Time to feel the hurricane and to realize that it only looks scary from the outside. As soon as you’re reconnected with your center – the eye of the hurricane – you’ll feel your inner silence and security. You will feel the deep knowledge you’ll always have about who you are and what you need. The knowledge about things only you can know. You have to see your true you first.
And then – in the end – it’s always your own decision. Do you wanna slow down the wind, clear your mind and focus on your questions? Or maybe you need some time first and you’ll let the storm move on around you. Maybe you have to settle down and recharge before you are going to invest the energy to let things go or clear them up. It’s all your decision. It’s all your time. And that’s exactly how it supposed to be. Love yourself enough to give you time. And take as long as you need to reconnect yourself. It’s always worth it.
MINDFULNESS
How can I live my life without losing myself, when everything around me always tries to be faster and more efficient. When every new version has to be better than the one before? When I'm in a constant competition and confronted by how everybody else is doing great? Am I still enough? Do I still fit in?
In this rush of life and improvement mindfulness gets more important than ever before. For me this means to do the exact opposite of what everyone else is doing: to slow down and take my time. Time to pay attention. With every single sense of my body. Time to see. Time to hear. Time to smell. Time to taste. Time to listen to my body and my soul. Time to feel myself and my perception physically and mentally to the fullest. That's my only way to stay connected with myself. And that's the precondition for everything. Even for doing a great job at work. But moreover to live my life to the fullest. And that's all I want. And all I'm here for.
So don't be afraid to step back. Breath. Take your time as long as you need. Listen to your inside. How do you feel? What do you need at the this moment? Do you need a change? And then, when you're reconnected with your inner light. Your soul. Your gut-feeling. Then you're able to get active. Invest your energy smart. Do only what feels right for you. And never decide because of others expectations. Their actions base on their needs. Yours should base on what you need.
Trust and love yourself enough to be mindful. It's never a waste of time to connect with your heart. That's actually the most efficient way. For everything. To live a fulfilled life. Your life.
And in case nobody already told you today: You are doing great! You are enough! And you fit in - into your life. And that's the only place you have to fit in. Nowhere else. You are doing great!
MANIFEST
One of our most powerful gifts is that we are able to decide by ourselves about our life. It's in our hands. We decide. About who we are. About what we do. About where we live... We come to this earth and start our lives at a specific place. And maybe sometimes you feel like everything is already decided. As if there is already a fix plan and your only option is to fit in and follow its rules. But the truth is, that you have the absolute power to change the direction. You’re the only one who is responsible for your life. Your happiness. And you own the force to influence your way.
The only thing you need is trust. Trust your life. And more over; trust in yourself and in this power of influence. Manifest your life. Don’t only believe it. Be so sure about something, that you know it’s gonna happen. Manifest where you wanna live. Manifest your job. Your next trip. Manifest all you need to feel fulfilled...
And then, when you’ve had manifested it so hard, that you know, it’s gonna happen exactly the way you’ll need it. When you are so sure about it. Live will push you straight into the right direction.
Enjoy this trust in faith. This knowledge. This power. Love yourself so much, that you know, what you deserve. Because you deserve best. Everything you want. Everything you need. And so much more.
SEE YOURSELF
All we want is to be seen. For who we really are. And we want to be loved. For who we really are. Every pure, honest action we do is motivated by the fact, that we wanna show our real selfs. Sometimes we just cover our real selfs because of the fear to show vulnerability. Because of our insecurity. But if we are truthful to ourselves; wouldn't we all love to show our souls? Our inner child? Without being afraid to get judged or hurt? Don't we wanna show who we really are?
"What you expect from others you should also do for yourself." So first of all show yourself your true you. How should someone see you if you don't even really allow yourself to see your true you? Do you really see yourself? Your light? Your power? Your love? Your fear? Your weakness? Your forces? - Your soul? Try to see every facet of yourself and thank all of them for existing. Because they're all part of you. And they're all here for a reason. They make you to who you really are. I hope you love every single one of them. And if not, that's no problem. You are absolutely allowed to change. Be who ever you feel you are - as long as it's your true you.
Learn to see yourself free of judgment. Learn to love every part of you. Fall in love with you. As soon as you see yourself and you love yourself for who you are, everybody around you will see you too. Trust the process. Trust yourself. Love yourself. You are incredible. And worth it. You really are!
SMILE
Your smile is one of your most powerful gifts you can share with the world. To smile means to be so fulfilled with happiness that your body doesn't wanna keep it inside (for yourself) anymore. It wants to get shared.
To smile is infectious. Smile at someone - even a stranger at the street - and almost certainly he will smile back. How lovely is that then tough? So whenever you're happy. Whenever you feel you wanna smile, share that! There's nothing more wonderful than making someone happy 'only' with your own happiness. Spread your smile and creat a positive environement. For them. And for yourself. Because you deserve to be surrounded by light and positivity.
ACTIONS
An action itself doesn't define a person. What defines them is the way they reflect on it and move forward afterwards. If they learn something out of it. How they feel. That's what really counts. This really tells you something about a person. Don't judge or define someone by a single action.
Moreover, try to figure out why they did it that way. Try to figure out if they would do it again and try to figure out what the lesson is about. For them, but mainly for yourself. Why did you react that way? Why did you feel like that? Take the opportunity of being impacted by someone's reaction to make the best out of it and try to learn something for yourself. Because it already happened. You can't change the past.
And then, when everybody reflects on the situation, do you still want to judge? Even if judging tells a lot about your personality, can you face yourself with love instead and take this as a chance to grow?
GUT FEELING
You can call it whatever you like. Gut feeling. Instinct. Trust. Faith. Sixth sense. In the end, it's all the same. Nature's gift that allows us to know what's right for us. As a kid we used this gift without questioning. Then, we learned how to decide in a logical, rational way. The gut feeling got replaced by realism and facts. That's actually nothing bad. It's just the more complicated way.
So try to find your way back to your inner trust. The trust of your first intention. The trust that it is right. Always. Your soul tries to communicate with you in a beloved way. Listen to it. This inner voice knows you better than anybody else. Try to be quiet and give her - your inner goddess - some space. Maybe she needs some time to regrow and maybe, in the beginning, she will be super quiet. But she is there. Trust me. And then - when she gets her self-confidence back - you will feel this limitless power of light and security. You will feel your own love that only you can give to yourself. The gut feeling is one of the biggest gifts we are carrying inside us. Love yourself enough to release it. Because you deserve the best. You are great!